Once there was a man. Man, a great speaker, simply an embodiment of logic and reasoning. One thin that he despaired was love. He dared to questions each aspect of love. Through the sight of his logical eyes, love seems not to fit in the equation of world. According to him, love is just a hoax manifested by people, just to avoid the harsh reality of life. In any argument, his logic and reasoning were so compelling that opponent shatters like a piece of glass.
One day, he was walking in a park, grinding with thoughts of his own. While walking, he saw a middle age woman crying lonely. “She’s the wife of Lord Sherman” he whispered to himself. She looked sad and lifeless. He became curious and wanted to know, what’s the reason for her sadness. He went to her and asks “What’s wrong madam?”
To his surprise, she answered, “I don’t think love exists in this world.” Even though he agrees with her, he asks “Why do you think that?” She said, I had been married for last 20 years; my husband was with me for the sake of children. Now the children are grown up. There is no reason for him to stay.” Where is love?” she asked while breathing heavily. “I think Love is just to blurr the misery of reality” she said.
Thier agreement on the topic of love served as a menu card for further conversations. They talked for hours, exploring each other. She shared her side of misery and he engaged with logics and reasoning. Both explored themselves and each other. Both touched happiness in themselves. Both of them left that day with warmth in their hearts after hours of conversation, just to meet again, every day for next two years.
One day the man was invited to neighbouring town for a debate. He couldn’t meet her that day as he was invited,so he asked her not to wait for him. While he was in debate, he sensed this strange feeling, the feeling of desperation. He never felt this way before. He wanted to leave the place and meet her. The moment the debate ended, he went straight to the park; only watch her waiting for him in same desperation. He then walked slowly toward her and said “I think. I love you.” Lady nodded in acceptance. She said she felt this way all along, but had been scared to tell. Soon after they got married.
After some years, coincidently they were sitting beside each other on the same bench, but something was different. They both were unhappy and emotionally wrecked. The man became unloving and the lady non-caring women. This wasn’t the way they met. What leads to this moment?
As the man thought deeper, while sitting beside her, he realized that both happiness and unhappiness toward each other is a product of same seed. The seed of responsibility. When they met, no one was responsible for others happiness, it was within the person. Generated by him for himself. But, after getting married both of them made others responsible for their happiness.
Both of them delivered the right of happiness into their counterpart’s hand. No matter how much she tries she can never make him happy because she doesn’t know, what he wants nor can he. Soon, expectation took over compassion, misery took over happiness and suspicion took over love.
Doesn’t this sounds familiar!
Isn’t it looks same to our love story? Met each other, fall in love, get married, fall out of love, and now, don’t know why even together. The major problem of every couple in this world, right now.
To have a relation built around happiness, you must be the owner of your own happiness. You must not give in your happiness, just because your partner is unhappy. You should be pulling your partner up, not diving down his/her level.
Learn to be happy on your own and relationship would be a pleasant-pleasant world.